I have been a stay at home mom for almost 5 years and some questions I get asked are hilarious and some comments are surprising. I feel as if some people think they have nothing in common with a mom who doesn’t work outside the home…Just because we are at home doesn’t mean we are any less intelligent or that we do “nothing” all day. Here are a few questions/comments that drive me mad…..
- “What do you do all day?”… Well let’s see, I’m constantly playing referee, laundry, cleaning up spills, preparing meals, baths, there are gymnastic classes, swimming lessons, changing bums x 2, finding time to eat myself, grocery shopping, shopping for kids….(okay so some of these things are not every day and there are a lot I forgot to mention I’m sure!)….bottom line, I kept the kids alive!
- “Your house must be spotless since you are home all day.”….Hell no! It’s a like a goddamned tornado struck actually…unless it’s a day where the cleaning lady comes (did I mention how much I love her?….seriously she is like my best friend in the entire universe…)…then it’s like heaven for about 10 minutes before the kids destroy it again!
- “You must have so much free time!”….Free time, what’s that? I can’t even pee without someone staring at me or when the door is closed there are tiny fingers poking underneath trying to get me…I’m sure as they get older I will be able to go to the bathroom alone…
- “Will you go back to work once the kids are all in school?”….I cringe when I hear this….Why do so many people ask? Why does it matter if I go back to work or not? Is it that much of a struggle to strike up a conversation with a sahm that people have to ask this question…ugh and for the record…no I’m not planning to go outside the home to work. I am quite busy at home and with little projects I have going on myself.
- “I would be so bored if I had to stay home all day.”….HA! Come live in my house for 24 hours and I promise you, you will not be bored.
- “Enjoy every minute.” ….Really? Every minute? Like the minute where all of the kids are screaming at eachother? Like the minute Hailey loses her shit because her sandwich is cut in rectangles instead of triangles (because I’m a mind reader)?, Like the minute where Madison takes off her clothes and pamper and pees on the floor (potty training in progress…)? How about the minute where Dawson decides to pour his sippy cup all over the floor and splash in it…..or the minute when you can finally sit down to enjoy a semi warm meal but yet again someone demands attention….yeah…
We are not aliens, I’m sure we have more in common than you think. Just strike up a normal conversation, don’t make rude comments or ask rude questions. We all do what we feel is best for our families. You do you.
Confessions of a Stay At Home Mom 